Relationships
Core Conflictual Relationship Theme (CCRT)
See the relationship pattern you keep repeating
The same argument with different partners. The same bracing for criticism with every new boss. You write three short stories about real moments with people who matter to you, and this exercise names the theme that keeps coming back.
It shows the relationship pattern you tend to repeat, from what you want from people to what you expect back and how you respond.
For anyone who keeps landing in the same kind of conflict with different people.
Report and PDF $29, paid after you finish.
Your answers stay private.
It draws on decades of psychotherapy research that reads recurring relationship themes from the stories people tell about real moments.
What this test is
Welcome. The same argument with different partners. The same bracing for criticism with every new boss. You write three short stories about real moments with people who matter to you, and this exercise names the theme that keeps coming back.
Where the idea comes from
The core conflictual relationship theme rests on a long-standing idea about how early relationships shape later ones. As Westen (1998) described, “people’s wishes, fears, feelings, and perceptions of significant others will resemble prototypes from the past” (p. 353). In this view, an old pattern tends to return when someone in the present resembles an important person from the past.
Westen (1998) also argued that “most important human experiences—namely, those involving feelings of intimacy and adequacy—have precursors in childhood that leave their precipitates not only in working models of the self, others, and the world but also in motives, emotions, and ways of regulating emotions” (p. 352).
Westen, D. (1998). The scientific legacy of Sigmund Freud: Toward a psychodynamically informed psychological science. Psychological Bulletin, 124(3), 333–371.
What the Core Conflictual Relationship Theme measures
Most people can name a moment when a conversation went the way their conversations with someone always seem to go. You hoped to be heard, the other person seemed to look past you, and you ended up quiet, or angry, or apologizing for something you had not done. In the Core Conflictual Relationship Theme (CCRT) method, moments like these count as evidence. Each one is read as a small, complete episode: what the person wanted, how the other person responded, and how the person responded in turn.
When the same combination of wish, expected response and reaction turns up across stories about different people, such as a parent, a partner and a boss, it is no longer a feature of any one relationship. It is a theme the person carries from one relationship into the next, and clinicians have long called this kind of carried-over pattern transference. The combination that recurs most often across your stories is your core theme.
Seeing that theme in plain words can matter, because a pattern that runs out of awareness is hard to change. When you can recognize the wish you keep bringing to people, the response you have come to expect, and the move you make when it arrives, you have something concrete to notice the next time it starts, to think about on your own, or to bring to a therapist.
On this site, your stories are scored automatically with fixed keyword rules built on the method’s standard categories, and the report shows the theme that recurs most often. The section on research and method below explains how that works and where it falls short of a trained clinician’s reading.
One story, three parts
Here is an invented example of the kind of story the exercise asks for. It is not about a real person and it is not one of the exercise’s prompts; it is one of the three made-up stories behind our sample report. The marked phrases show how the method divides a single episode into its three parts.
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- Step 1, what you wish for: the wish you bring to the moment.
- Step 2, how the other person responds: what they do, or what you expect them to do.
- Step 3, how you respond: what you feel and what you do next.
- The dashed arrow: when the same three parts return with different people, they form a recurring theme.
With my partner I wished to feel close and understoodwish. I tried to open up and share how I was feeling, hoping to be accepted and reassuredwish. They seemed busy and brushed it offother, and I felt rejected and unimportantself. So I withdrew, hid my disappointment, and pretended everything was fineself.
- 1What you wish forTo feel close and understood.
- 2How the other person respondsThey seem busy and brush it off.
- 3How you respondI withdraw and pretend everything is fine.
Notice that the response of self has two layers, a feeling (rejected and unimportant) and an action (withdrawing and hiding it). The method counts both, because what people do with a disappointment is often as telling as the disappointment itself.
From stories to a pattern
A single story could be a bad day. The method becomes informative when the same shape appears in stories about different people. Below are the three invented stories from our sample report, read the way the method reads them. The people and the details change from story to story, yet the wish to be recognized and understood, the experience of being brushed aside, and the retreat into silence keep returning.
The thread that runs through all three
I want to be seen and understood, the other person turns away or dismisses me, and I pull back and keep my feelings to myself.
That recurring thread is what the method calls the core theme. In a real report the theme is found by the scorer rather than written by hand, and the next sections show what that looks like.
What you’ll learn
- What you most often want from the people who matter to you: to be understood, to be close, to be respected, or to be left alone.
- How you tend to expect others to respond, and what you usually do next.
- Whether the same theme runs through different relationships or shows up in only one.
- Whether your pattern shifts when you take it again later, after time or a stretch of therapy.
What taking it is like
You write three short stories, one at a time, each about a real moment with someone who matters to you. Each screen gives you a short prompt and a box to write in, and you describe what happened, what you wanted, how the other person responded, and what you felt and did next. There is no timer and there are no right or wrong answers, and a few honest sentences are worth more than a polished essay. You need at least ten words to move on, and you can go back to an earlier story to change it before you submit.
Writing the stories can itself be a little revealing. If a moment feels too raw to write about today, choose a different one, because the exercise works with ordinary moments as well as painful ones.
| Format | Three short written stories about real moments with people who matter to you. |
|---|---|
| What you do | Describe what happened, what you wanted, how the other person responded, and what you felt and did next. A short paragraph per prompt is plenty; there are no right or wrong answers. |
Test information
| Format | Three short written stories about real moments with people who matter to you |
|---|---|
| Pace | Self-paced; there is no timer |
| Administration | Online, on your own; clinicians and researchers can also assign it through a private link |
| Device | Any device with a keyboard; a few sentences per story |
| Scoring | Each sentence is checked against fixed keyword rules built on the method’s standard categories; no artificial intelligence (AI) model |
| Comparison group | None: the report describes themes in your own stories |
| Report | On screen, with a downloadable copy |
| Purpose | Self-exploration, or assigned by a clinician. |
| Age range | Adults 18 and up. |
| Languages | English only. |
How it is scored
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- Step 1: You write three stories
- Step 2: Each sentence is checked against fixed keyword rules
- Step 3: Matches are counted for the wish, the other person’s response and your response
- Step 4: The theme that recurs most often in each part is named
- Step 5: Your core pattern, story by story
Evidence
- Scoring Fixed keyword rules
- Repeatability Same stories, same result
- Agreement with trained coders Not established
What your report shows
The report starts with your core pattern, then shows how often each part of it appeared, where it falls on a map of warmth and dominance, and which parts were found in each story. Your own stories are included so you can reread them alongside the result, and the downloadable copy keeps the notes on method and limitations with it.
| Section | What it shows |
|---|---|
| Your core pattern | Your leading themes for what you wish for, how others respond, and how you respond in turn. |
| How often it recurs | How consistently each theme appears across your three stories. |
| Story by story | Which themes were coded in each story. |
| Pattern map | Where each part of your pattern falls on the dimensions of warmth and dominance. |
| Comparing your runs | A side-by-side view of your runs over time. A plain comparison of your own runs, not a clinical change measure. |
| Downloadable report | A copy you can save, with notes on method and limitations. |
Example
Your core pattern
- What you wish for Be loved and understood Found in 1 of 3 stories
- How the other person responds Rejecting and opposing Found in 1 of 3 stories
- How you respond Disappointed and depressed Found in 1 of 3 stories
Pattern map
Each point is the average position of the themes found for one part of the pattern, placed on two dimensions: how hostile or friendly it is, from left to right, and how dominant or submissive it is, from top to bottom.
In this example, the wish falls in the friendly-submissive quarter, the other person’s response falls in the hostile-dominant quarter, and the response of self falls in the hostile-submissive quarter. Seen together, the points show the shape of the pattern at a glance: what the person reaches for, what they meet, and where they end up.
Story by story
| Story | Wish | Other | Self |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1. A new manager | Not found | Not found | Not found |
| 2. A partner | Found | Found | Not found |
| 3. An old friend | Not found | Not found | Found |
A reader can see all three parts in every one of these stories, while the keyword rules recognized fewer of them. That gap is real, and it is why the report treats its result as a starting point for reflection rather than a final reading.
Who it is for, and who it is not for
It is a good fit if
- you keep finding yourself in the same kind of disagreement or disappointment with different people and want words for it;
- you are in therapy, or thinking about it, and would like something concrete to bring to a session;
- you want to take it again after some time and see whether the pattern has loosened or shifted;
- you are a clinician who wants a structured starting point for a conversation about relationship patterns.
It is not the right tool if
- you are looking for a diagnosis or a personality-disorder assessment, which this exercise does not provide;
- the result would be used to make decisions about someone else, such as hiring, custody or admission;
- writing about painful moments in your relationships would be too much right now;
- you are in crisis or worried about your safety, in which case please contact local emergency services or someone you trust rather than an online exercise.
Research background and how it was developed
Where the method comes from
The idea that people repeat old relationship patterns with new people goes back to Freud, who noticed that his patients brought feelings to him that seemed to belong to earlier relationships, and who came to see that what cannot be remembered tends to be repeated (Freud, 1912, 1914). For decades that idea lived mainly in clinical judgment. In 1977 Lester Luborsky introduced the Core Conflictual Relationship Theme method to make it observable: instead of inferring a pattern from a whole treatment, judges read short accounts of specific interactions, called relationship episodes, and code each one into a wish, a response of the other and a response of self (Luborsky, 1977). The theme is the combination that recurs across the largest number of episodes.
Over the following two decades Luborsky, Paul Crits-Christoph and their colleagues built the method into a standardized procedure with fixed category lists, and in their research trained judges agreed well enough for the method to be used in studies of psychotherapy (Luborsky & Crits-Christoph, 1998). That work reported that the same theme tends to appear across different relationships, and it examined how the theme’s pervasiveness changes over the course of treatment (Crits-Christoph & Luborsky, 1990), and one study found that therapists’ interpretations that matched a patient’s theme were associated with better outcomes (Crits-Christoph, Cooper, & Luborsky, 1988). These findings describe trained human coding in clinical settings, not this online version.
How this version was built
This version keeps the structure of the method and automates the coding. It asks for three written episodes instead of the ten or so that clinical use usually gathers. Each story is read sentence by sentence against a fixed dictionary built on the method’s standard category names, with 35 categories for the wish, 30 for the response of the other and 31 for the response of self. When a sentence matches a category, the match is counted toward that part of the pattern, and each category also carries a fixed position on the two dimensions of warmth and dominance, which is what the pattern map plots. The scorer is a fixed set of rules rather than an artificial intelligence (AI) model, and nothing about you is compared with other people.
How it has been checked, and what has not been checked yet
Because the rules are fixed, the same stories always produce the same result, and the software’s automated tests re-run the scorer on a fixed set of example stories whenever the code changes. What has not yet been done is a comparison between this scorer and trained judges coding the same stories, so there is no figure for how closely the two agree, and no reference group of other people’s results stands behind the report. Keyword rules can also miss meaning that a clinician would catch, such as irony, negation or an unusual way of describing a feeling, and three stories give the pattern fewer chances to show itself than a full clinical set would. For these reasons the report describes themes in the words you wrote, and it is best read as a structured starting point for reflection or for a conversation with a clinician.
Questions
Do I need to be in therapy to take it?
No. Anyone curious about their relationship patterns can take it. People in therapy sometimes bring the report to a session.
Does artificial intelligence (AI) read my stories?
No. The same stories always produce the same result.
Can I take it again?
Yes. Every completed run stays on your account, and you can line up your runs side by side.
Can clinicians use it?
Yes. Clinicians can assign it through a private patient link (no patient login); results go to the issuing clinician, with a report adapted for clinical readers.
What does it cost?
The current access terms are shown at the top of this page and on the pricing page.
What should I write about?
Choose real, specific moments with people who matter to you, such as a partner, a parent, a friend or someone at work, and let each story be a different moment. Good and bad moments both count. A few sentences on what you wanted, what the other person did and how you responded is enough, and a fuller paragraph gives the scorer more to work with.
Why does it ask for specific moments rather than general impressions?
The method reads the pattern out of concrete episodes, because a general description of yourself tends to repeat how you already see yourself, while a specific moment shows what actually happened between two people. The theme comes from what repeats across those moments.
Why only three stories?
Three stories keep the exercise short. In clinical use the method usually works from around ten episodes, so a pattern drawn from three is a starting point rather than a settled picture, and taking it again later with new stories adds to it.
Who sees my stories?
Your stories are saved with your result so that your report can show them back to you. If a clinician sent you a private link, the report goes to that clinician. The privacy policy explains how your responses are stored and protected.
Read more
For the longer story, explore the science of interpersonal patterns.
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